This entry is directly inspired by a conversation I had with a friend. I use the word “friend” loosely here. More of an acquaintance I have known for a couple years now.
Recently, I had been posting on social media photos of myself wearing my old halloween costumes from previous years. I thought it would be nice to showcase that creative side of me. However, I had a friend message me and the conversation turned to him asking me what I’ll be this year.
Me as an angel, Halloween 2020
After sharing, he told me that it was “crazy” that I was 30 and still dressing up, but not before reminding me to be sure to take a picture. I did not reply, in truth, I was stunned and more than a little upset. I am 31, not 30.
I jest. The real reason why I found that upsetting is because plenty of adults dress up for Halloween. Why was I being judged for something everyone else does? When you walk into any costume store whether it is “Spirit” or “Party City” you will find sections of kids, juniors, and (you guessed it) adult costumes.
Not only that, but there are costumes for babies and pets! It looks like anyone could dress up if they wish to. I thought about pointing this out to this individual, but it felt like a waste of time. His comment had nothing to do with me.
Don’t worry about what someone thinks of you. What matters is what you think of you.
Sometimes people will judge you because it makes them feel better about themselves. There can be any number of reasons why someone does this. You can try to analyze them all you want but at the end of the day, it’s not up to you figure out why people feel the way they do towards you. As a bright woman once said,
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Me and my cat, Bruce. Halloween 2021
So I continued to post my old costumes and will continue to dress up, as long as I wish to. Dressing up for Halloween can be fun (my family does it every year for an annual photo). Life is too short to be spent worrying about what people will think of us.
We should take time to enjoy the fun and not take ourselves (as well as others) too seriously We are only human once. Let’s partake in our humanity by being kind to each other and providing space to let others feel safe to be themselves as well.
Me as a mermaid, Halloween 2022
So if you’re an adult and you feel like celebrating this year and dressing up then go for it! It is seriously so fun. It’s the one night a year where you get to be someone other than yourself, and you won’t be the only one doing it!
That being said, I hope everyone has a safe and Happy Halloween! 🎃